Comments on "Thoughtfulness" - Faerye Net

Re: that site

2004-05-12T09:53:48+00:00

You are wise. It is always better to just let things go…one shouldn’t let another’s action, purposeful or unintentional, continue to smart.

Re: that site

2004-05-11T16:03:46+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been reading it some more - there are some hilarious stories there, among the painful ones - and I decided there is a moral: If you really want to dislike someone, you can find a way. There will always be little mistakes, little thoughtless actions. Whereas if you’re determined to like them, there are very few people in the world who are awful enough to override your good expectations and intentions. All the more reason to try not to hold grudges—you don’t know when you’ll wake up and realize you’re angry at a perfectly nice person for something they did when you were 12…

that site

2004-05-11T15:35:06+00:00

It makes for addictive reading, but it’s programmed to create neuroses in its readers. Take it with a grain of salt—while some of the stories are shocking, people shouldn’t carry around that kind of resentment, it doesn’t help anybody. You are a thoughtful giver and a thoughtful thanker, so try not to worry too much. :)

Re: bah

2004-05-11T08:44:14+00:00

I actually FORGOT to mention one thing I know I do with regularity - I don’t send presents. I buy them, wrap them, and then realize it’s too late to have them there by the day - and once that deadline has passed, it’s all too easy to leave them sitting about. I’ve got a Christmas and birthday present for a friend going to school in the UK, and my mother’s Mothers’ Day present, sitting around. I like to call it “extending the holiday joy” and people are kind enough not to deride the pretense in my presence.

bah

2004-05-11T08:05:01+00:00

I, for one, cannot remember a time when I have ever noticed you being incosiderate or uncourteous. I don’t think anyone ever writes every thank-you note that they should. You’re right – good intentions, as long as you follow through most of the time, have to be good enough.

I know what you mean, though – I actually have regular nightmares (albeit tame ones) around Christmas time about forgetting to get someone a present or not remember to write thank-you notes.