Comments on ""Feisty"" - Faerye Net

Re: No subject

2005-10-24T09:24:56+00:00

Musta missed the reply. :)

You can thank Lindsey for helping me find you.

Re: No subject

2005-10-21T12:46:24+00:00

I answered you last time, Linus :p

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2005-10-21T11:03:19+00:00

Maybe it’s just one of those words that has come to have a “cute” connotation. Men are not “cute” when they fight the system. They’re revolutionary or strong, but never fiesty.

There’s a definitely a dismissive air to it. I think this dismissive air is common in a lot of societal concepts about women. There are times when it can be a help more than a hinderance, however. I have a (male) friend who was being sexually harassed (and assaulted) in his workplace. Despite repeated complaints, nothing was done until he reacted to one of the assaults and pushed his (female) coworker away and against a wall. At which time he was fired.

I’m not saying it was unreasonable to fire him for his actions, but I think it’s entirely unfair and unbalanced (oddly in a sort of Fox News sort of way) that they have done nothing with the woman who assaulted him.

By the by, do you have any idea who I am?

Finally!

2005-10-21T10:44:37+00:00

Someone notices, and a woman, no less.

I have never understood how the word could possibly be a compliment. I have always taken this expression to be largely synonymous with combative, when women have used it about themselves. Or at least “someone who would quickly make a guy like me very, very tired.” Not anything close to a compliment, in my world.

But then, I’ve also always thought this might be attributable to my lack of understanding of the finer points of American culture. Apparently, I am not the only one having doubts about the connotations of the term, and the fact that these doubts are expressed by a “native” (quotes for political correctness) made me feel a little less alien today.

Thank you.